Dating is a Trap
Chapter: The Set-Up
“The reality is, dating is a terrifying combination of amazing and trash, it just depends where on the spectrum your relationship falls. There are so many aspects out of your control that it just comes down to the luck of the draw. If you are like me, you are probably still trying the apps or trying to navigate the dating world organically (which, if you have met someone not via your phone, can you please call me because I need advice). May the swipes ever be in your favor, or may the man buying you a drink actually call you back.
But what if he doesn’t call? What happens when” “What happens when your texts are left on read?
I turned twenty-eight this year. I have been living a double life. I am Ms. Independent. I can take care of myself. I don’t need someone to lean on. I get up and go without answering to anyone. But then, I lie awake at night scrolling and think, Damn you are really alone, aren’t you?”
“I have considered settling, eating, not eating, moving into the gym, and thought: What am I doing wrong? I’ve talked to a guy, not talked to him. Forgiven one, and not forgiven the other. I feel as though I have tried it all and ” “yet, here I am. I still have more questions than answers, and my cocktail of mixed emotions is enough to drive anyone crazy.
Through this chaos, I learned what I won’t deal with, and the things I crave. Although I write this with no ring and no prospects, I can truly say that I am at least content with sharing my story and endless journey.
Truthfully, I think we are lying to ourselves, and some of us are . . . well, being a little selfish. It’s not all men; some women straddle the line of being guilty of selfishness as well. Self-awareness is vital, and I think we all just need to be upfront with one another.
1.Why are we ghosting people?
2.Why are we acting as though our time is more valuable than anyone else’s?
3.Why do we think our actions have no consequences?
4.Why are we acting as though emotions don’t matter?
It has been scientifically proven, and it’s in the word of God, that we as humans are not meant to be alone. From psychologist Guy Winch: “Loneliness is as bad for your health and longevity as smoking. It increases cholesterol, raises your blood pressure, and weakens your immune system. Spend too much time alone and you could literally be shortening your life.” 1 In Genesis 2:18, the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help for him.”2
Excerpt From: Nikki Akinyi McKenzie. “#RelationshipStatus.”
Over the next weeks, I’m going to be sharing excerpts and stories from my book, #RelationshipStatus in this article series. #RelationshipStatus launched on Amazon, here is the link to buy it https://amzn.to/3xf3IcB! It is also available on BarnesandNoble.com and iBooks. If you want to connect, you can reach me here via email relationship.status.nm@gmail.com or connect with me on social: IG/Twitter: nikki_akinyi .
